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bearshorty 30 Days of Me Meme
Day 8: Your first boyfriend/girlfriend
I was 15 and his name was Rus. We were in school together and shared most of the classes since we were both in honor society program. We were friendly but it took me by surprise when he asked me out in September of our sophomore year. I gave him my phone number so we could talk first before I agreed to a date. We both liked Star Trek so it was fun to establish a real friendship. We went on our first date a few weeks later. I liked him and it was my first relationship, so it was all very innocent and new. He was my first kiss, we sat together in English class (it was sci-fi theme that quarter), and joked in math but he was much more into me than I was into him. I cared for him a lot and really valued the friendship that developed between us but he was in love with me.
When he told me that over the phone I just felt really bad. I didn't say it back, of course, I wasn't going to lie. But I knew then that I had to break up with him because those feelings were just not there for me and it wasn't fair to him. A few weeks later I went out of the country for a week on vacation with my parents. When I came back, he listened to his stupid friends and decided the best strategy was to act aloof and ignore me - let me come to him. I went over his place and he tried to be all cool. Later that night he called me and I broke up with him. I know I broke his heart. His Mom even called me that night to try to get me to change my mind, but I knew it was for the better. I felt terrible that I didn't return his feelings.
We still had school together for two and a half years - we dated for four months - so we retained a friendship. We went to the Star Trek convention together for his 16th birthday. And we talked once we graduated too and went to different colleges. We emailed jokes to each other and talked on the phone occasionally. I always called him on his birthday. But when I called him for his 26th, his girlfriend at the time picked up the phone and cursed at me and yelled at me. It wasn't pleasant. I haven't talked to him in a year; I was in a long term relationship - it's not like I was competition. But she was the jealous type and he never called me back after that.
I think he is married now to some other girl. His Mom occasionally sees the Mom of my best friend while shopping so I get some info. His Mom still asks about me every time and wishes that we never broke up. I really hope he's happy. I do miss our friendship.
30 Days of Fanfic Meme
8 – Do you write OCs? And if so, what do you do to make certain they're not Mary Sues, and if not, explain your thoughts on OCs.
Not all OCs are Mary Sues. One can create original character that are nothing like oneself. When I was writing Remus's Mom, I was certainly not self-inserting. I do write OCs when the story calls for it but I do prefer to write canon characters. I did enjoy writing Remus' Dad last year.
Real Life
Today went a little fast. I graded papers, read Dante Inferno Cantos 31-32 (almost done with Inferno), and we went to visit my grandparents this afternoon. I needed a new roster book for my classes and I usually get it at Staples, but the local Staples didn't have it - or at least I couldn't find it. That was annoying. That whole store was so disorganized and the employee's were not helpful at all.
I started the 8th Tomek book - a bright spot in my day. Reading it was just like how I remembered it; it hasn't lost its magic - the prose is still stiff and occasionally awkward (Yes, let's now have a totally random but educational conversation about the various tribes of South America and their customs, it's totally like regular people talk all the time) and now I recognize when the author is about to give an infodump or exposition but it doesn't bother me. It's so good to see those characters again but now there is even more amusement - bravely fighting a puma and ripping a shirt off to tie off sexy wounds. I'm really having fun with it. And the author gave a convenient exposition of what happened before the cliffhanger - it has been 25 years since I read book 7. The author started with a letter from Tomek to his father - Dear, Dad. I know I have written you all this info in my last letter, but since you are coming over to South America and I will see you in person in just few days, let me write out a detailed letter so I can recap again what happened just to make sure you understand. It makes so much more sense than just talking in person tomorrow.
Day 8: Your first boyfriend/girlfriend
I was 15 and his name was Rus. We were in school together and shared most of the classes since we were both in honor society program. We were friendly but it took me by surprise when he asked me out in September of our sophomore year. I gave him my phone number so we could talk first before I agreed to a date. We both liked Star Trek so it was fun to establish a real friendship. We went on our first date a few weeks later. I liked him and it was my first relationship, so it was all very innocent and new. He was my first kiss, we sat together in English class (it was sci-fi theme that quarter), and joked in math but he was much more into me than I was into him. I cared for him a lot and really valued the friendship that developed between us but he was in love with me.
When he told me that over the phone I just felt really bad. I didn't say it back, of course, I wasn't going to lie. But I knew then that I had to break up with him because those feelings were just not there for me and it wasn't fair to him. A few weeks later I went out of the country for a week on vacation with my parents. When I came back, he listened to his stupid friends and decided the best strategy was to act aloof and ignore me - let me come to him. I went over his place and he tried to be all cool. Later that night he called me and I broke up with him. I know I broke his heart. His Mom even called me that night to try to get me to change my mind, but I knew it was for the better. I felt terrible that I didn't return his feelings.
We still had school together for two and a half years - we dated for four months - so we retained a friendship. We went to the Star Trek convention together for his 16th birthday. And we talked once we graduated too and went to different colleges. We emailed jokes to each other and talked on the phone occasionally. I always called him on his birthday. But when I called him for his 26th, his girlfriend at the time picked up the phone and cursed at me and yelled at me. It wasn't pleasant. I haven't talked to him in a year; I was in a long term relationship - it's not like I was competition. But she was the jealous type and he never called me back after that.
I think he is married now to some other girl. His Mom occasionally sees the Mom of my best friend while shopping so I get some info. His Mom still asks about me every time and wishes that we never broke up. I really hope he's happy. I do miss our friendship.
30 Days of Fanfic Meme
8 – Do you write OCs? And if so, what do you do to make certain they're not Mary Sues, and if not, explain your thoughts on OCs.
Not all OCs are Mary Sues. One can create original character that are nothing like oneself. When I was writing Remus's Mom, I was certainly not self-inserting. I do write OCs when the story calls for it but I do prefer to write canon characters. I did enjoy writing Remus' Dad last year.
Real Life
Today went a little fast. I graded papers, read Dante Inferno Cantos 31-32 (almost done with Inferno), and we went to visit my grandparents this afternoon. I needed a new roster book for my classes and I usually get it at Staples, but the local Staples didn't have it - or at least I couldn't find it. That was annoying. That whole store was so disorganized and the employee's were not helpful at all.
I started the 8th Tomek book - a bright spot in my day. Reading it was just like how I remembered it; it hasn't lost its magic - the prose is still stiff and occasionally awkward (Yes, let's now have a totally random but educational conversation about the various tribes of South America and their customs, it's totally like regular people talk all the time) and now I recognize when the author is about to give an infodump or exposition but it doesn't bother me. It's so good to see those characters again but now there is even more amusement - bravely fighting a puma and ripping a shirt off to tie off sexy wounds. I'm really having fun with it. And the author gave a convenient exposition of what happened before the cliffhanger - it has been 25 years since I read book 7. The author started with a letter from Tomek to his father - Dear, Dad. I know I have written you all this info in my last letter, but since you are coming over to South America and I will see you in person in just few days, let me write out a detailed letter so I can recap again what happened just to make sure you understand. It makes so much more sense than just talking in person tomorrow.